Is Infidelity Karmic? Exploring Relationship Patterns Through Past Life Regression

Saurabh Session#1-3

Some patterns in life are difficult to miss. You know how they begin. You know where they usually lead. You have lived through the consequences more than once and promised yourself that this time will be different.

And then, somehow, you find yourself standing in almost exactly the same place again.

That was Saurabh's predicament when he approached me for Past Life Regression Therapy.

Professionally, Saurabh was doing exceptionally well. An luxury homes entrepreneur and businessman whose company had established an international presence, he travelled extensively and dealt with people across cultures. Extroverted, articulate and naturally charming, connecting with people came easily to him.

His personal relationships, however, were considerably more complicated.

Saurabh had been married for around twenty years and had two children. His had been an arranged marriage and, by his account, emotional compatibility between him and his wife had always been difficult.

They lived within a joint family set-up, which brought additional friction. His wife frequently clashed with his mother and never seemed entirely comfortable within the family structure. Saurabh felt he had tried over the years to give her freedom and space rather than impose expectations upon her, yet the emotional distance between them remained.

The marriage continued. But so did something else.

The Pattern He Could See But Couldn't Seem to Stop

Saurabh had repeatedly become involved in relationships outside his marriage.

What intrigued me during our initial conversation was how he described these relationships.

He didn't speak about them primarily as physical relationships.

What drew him in was usually conversation.

Someone he could talk to. Someone who seemed interested in his thoughts. Someone with whom he felt emotionally and intellectually engaged.

Gradually, he would become emotionally invested.

Eventually his wife would discover the relationship. There would be confrontation and upheaval, the relationship would end and Saurabh would return to his marriage.

Until, sometime later, another connection developed. The person changed.

The circumstances changed. The pattern didn't.

By the time he came to me, Saurabh wasn't looking for justification for his behaviour. He wanted to understand it.

Why did he repeatedly seek emotional connection outside his marriage despite knowing the consequences?

Was this simply a behavioural response to an emotionally unfulfilling marriage?

Was he addicted to the excitement of a new connection?

Or was there a deeper karmic relationship pattern operating beneath the behaviour?

We decided to explore precisely that through Past Life Regression Therapy.

What eventually unfolded required three separate sessions.

PLR Session One: Love and Duty Seem to Live in Different Rooms

Regression rarely unfolds like watching a complete film. More often, the client receives fragments.

An image.

A sensation.

An emotion.

A piece of clothing.

The awareness that someone nearby is a spouse, parent or child without necessarily knowing their name.

As a PLR therapist, I work with what the client experiences and probe gently through questions.

What are you wearing?

Are you indoors or outside?

Who is with you?

How do you feel towards this person?

Move towards an important event connected with this relationship.

Gradually, the fragments begin connecting.

In Saurabh's first session, he became aware of himself as a man. He couldn't identify the period or location.

When prompted to look at his clothing, he described loose garments and fabric that appeared wrapped around his body rather than modern stitched clothing. The surroundings felt warm and somewhat dusty.

There seemed to be a large household with several family members.

Then came the awareness of a woman.

His wife.

There wasn't hatred or obvious conflict between them. Instead, there was something perhaps more difficult to describe. Emotional emptiness.

He understood that the marriage had been arranged through their families and that he was fulfilling his responsibilities towards her.

When I asked whether there was another emotionally significant person in that lifetime, he became quiet. After some time, another woman emerged.

He seemed to know her through circumstances connected with work or travel, although the details remained indistinct.

What was remarkably clear was the emotion.

"I can talk to her."

As we explored further, he felt that the relationship had been discovered and ended under pressure from his family. There was no dramatic tragedy.

He simply returned to the life expected of him. Towards the end of the lifetime, what remained was regret.

When I asked what he seemed to have concluded from that experience, his response was similar to: "Duty and love don't happen together."

It was an interesting belief to emerge during a regression focused specifically on his current relationship pattern. But one lifetime wasn't enough to draw conclusions. So we continued in the next session.

PLR Session Two: The Person Changes, the Feeling Doesn't

We approached the second session without trying to recreate the first.

The intention remained simple:

Take us towards an experience relevant to Saurabh's recurring relationship pattern.

This time, the surroundings felt entirely different. He sensed himself again as a man, wearing heavier clothing and boots. The environment felt considerably colder. There appeared to be frequent travel connected with his work.

Once again, he became aware of having a wife. The relationship wasn't abusive or overtly unhappy. It simply felt emotionally distant.

When I asked him to move towards a significant relationship in that lifetime, another woman emerged. Initially there wasn't much visual information about her. But there was an immediate emotional response.

He relaxed.

There was laughter.

Conversation.

A feeling of being listened to.

When I asked him what was different about being with her, he said:

"I don't have to explain myself."

That sentence carried far more weight than any historical detail could have.

Eventually, however, the relationship ended. The precise circumstances weren't clear. He simply knew that she had chosen to leave and build another life.

What surfaced strongly was the feeling of abandonment. Towards the end of the lifetime, I asked what he had learnt about relationships. His answer came quickly: "Don't depend on one person."

Now we had two experiences that appeared very different externally but contained a remarkably similar emotional structure.

Marriage represented duty and responsibility.

Emotional connection appeared elsewhere.

And yet that outside connection didn't provide lasting security either.

There was still one question bothering me.

Why did Saurabh keep becoming so deeply emotionally invested?

If this were simply about seeking excitement outside marriage, why wasn't a casual relationship enough?

That became the intention for our third session.

PLR Session Three: The Fear Beneath the Search for Connection

The third session took us somewhere emotionally different.

This time Saurabh initially sensed himself as considerably younger. The images were less clear than in the previous sessions, so we worked primarily through sensations and relationships rather than trying to establish a particular historical setting.

He eventually became aware of being part of a household in which one parent seemed emotionally unavailable for long periods.

When asked to move towards an important emotional experience, he described waiting.

Waiting for someone to return.

Waiting for attention.

Waiting to feel noticed.

Later in that lifetime, a significant romantic relationship appeared.

Again, he couldn't give me names or precise circumstances.

But when asked what this person represented to him, the answer was immediate.

"She chooses me."

That was the emotional centre of the lifetime.

Being chosen felt extraordinarily important.

As the regression progressed, the relationship seemed to become unstable. The more uncertain he became about the woman's feelings, the more intensely he tried to hold on.

Eventually she left.

What surfaced wasn't simply heartbreak. It was the much older feeling we had encountered earlier in the lifetime.

Being left behind.

Being unseen.

Not being chosen.

During the healing portion of the regression, we worked with that younger emotional self rather than focusing solely on the romantic relationship.

He was guided to acknowledge the loneliness and release the belief that another person's attention determined his worth.

That distinction mattered. Because by now, three sessions had begun pointing towards something deeper than infidelity.

What Were the Three Sessions Really Showing Us?

When we put the experiences together, an interesting emotional progression appeared.

Session One: Love and responsibility seemed incompatible.

Session Two: Emotional fulfilment was found outside the primary relationship, but couldn't be trusted to remain.

Session Three: Beneath the search for connection was a powerful need to feel chosen, understood and emotionally significant to someone.

Suddenly Saurabh's present pattern looked slightly different. Perhaps every new relationship wasn't simply about the woman involved.

The beginning of a relationship gave him something enormously powerful:

The feeling of being seen.

Someone was fascinated by his thoughts.

Someone wanted to hear what he had to say.

Someone looked forward to speaking with him.

Someone chose him.

That emotional experience was intoxicating. And perhaps once the novelty settled into ordinary relationship territory, the underlying hunger gradually returned.

Does Past Life Karma Excuse Infidelity?

No. And this became an important part of our work.

PLR Therapy should never be used to remove responsibility for present-day choices.

Even if Saurabh interpreted everything he experienced as genuine past-life memories, those experiences did not force him to enter another relationship.

They could perhaps explain why certain situations carried an unusually strong emotional pull. But understanding the origin of an impulse and acting upon that impulse are two very different things. 

This was where the real work began.

Saurabh needed to learn to recognise the emotional trigger before it became another relationship.

When he found himself unusually drawn towards someone, he could begin asking:

What am I actually receiving here?

Is it admiration?

Conversation?

Validation?

Attention?

The feeling of being understood?

The feeling of being chosen?

Once the real need becomes visible, there are more ways of meeting it than simply following the familiar relationship pattern.

Healing a Karmic Relationship Pattern

Across the three sessions, we worked on releasing the emotional charge attached to abandonment, emotional loneliness and the belief that love could only exist outside duty.

He was guided to acknowledge whatever learning he wished to retain from each experience while releasing beliefs and emotional attachments that no longer belonged in his present life.

But regression alone wasn't the answer.

Saurabh also had to look at his current marriage without using either spirituality or dissatisfaction as a convenient hiding place.

Could the relationship be rebuilt emotionally?

Were there conversations that had been avoided for years?

Were his expectations of emotional and intellectual companionship realistic within the marriage as it currently existed?

And if the marriage couldn't provide those things, what conscious choices did he want to make about his life?

Those weren't questions a past life could answer for him. They belonged entirely to Saurabh.

Conclusion: The Pattern Wasn't Really About Infidelity

Saurabh had entered his first Past Life Regression session wanting to know why he repeatedly became involved with women outside his marriage.

Three sessions later, the question had changed.

It was no longer simply: "Why do I keep having relationships outside my marriage?"

It had become: "Why is being emotionally chosen so important to me?"

That was a far more useful question. Because sometimes the behaviour that brings us into therapy isn't the actual wound. It is simply the way we have learnt to soothe it.

Whether Saurabh's regression experiences are understood as literal past lives, symbolic subconscious narratives or something somewhere between the two, they gave him an opportunity to recognise the emotional pattern beneath his behaviour.

And recognition creates choice. It doesn't rewrite twenty years of marriage. It doesn't erase the consequences of previous relationships. It certainly doesn't absolve responsibility. 

But it allows a person to catch themselves at the beginning of the familiar road rather than wondering, yet again, how they ended up at the same destination.

For Saurabh, perhaps that was the real purpose of these three sessions. Not discovering whom he had loved before. But understanding what he had been looking for through love all along.

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