When a Best Friend Ghosts You: Tarot Reading and the Lesson Behind It

Snehal Session #1

There’s a certain kind of heartbreak that doesn’t come from romance—it comes from the silence of someone you thought would always be there. Snehal knew this pain all too well. Her best friend of over four decades, Virendra, had vanished from her life without explanation. One day, they were laughing over emails and late-night phone calls, sharing their lives as they always had. The next, radio silence. Months passed. Messages were left on ‘read.’ Calls went unanswered.

Snehal found herself in a spiral of distress, confusion, and hurt. Had she done something wrong? Was he going through something and didn’t want to talk? Why would someone she trusted implicitly shut her out so completely?

That’s when she reached out to me through social media, seeking a tarot reading to help her understand why Virendra had ghosted her and what she needed to learn from this experience.

Snehal’s Story: A Friendship That Spanned Decades

Snehal, a warm-hearted and vivacious woman, had always been the kind of person who loved deeply and laughed freely. She was now settled in Jakarta with her family, leading a successful career, but she had never lost touch with Virendra, who lived in the UK. They had been inseparable since childhood, their friendship a constant through every stage of life.

However, as we talked, Snehal shared something that made me pause. Throughout her youth, she had a pattern—relationships that started lightheartedly but ended abruptly, often without closure. There was something about her energy that drew connections into her life but also saw them slip away without explanation. Could this be playing into the situation with Virendra?

It was time to consult the cards.

The Tarot Spread: A Celtic Cross Reading for Snehal

For deep, layered questions like Snehal’s, I used a customised Celtic Cross spread—a ten-card layout that offers insight into the heart of the matter, the energies at play, and the lessons to be learned.

Snehal’s Question: "Why has my best friend ghosted me, and what lesson do I need to learn from this experience?"

Here’s what the cards revealed:

1. Present Situation – Three of Swords

A card of heartbreak, loss, and painful realisations. Snehal’s emotions were raw, her heart heavy with betrayal and confusion. The Three of Swords confirmed that she was in a period of deep emotional pain. This was not just about Virendra’s absence; it was unearthing old wounds of abandonment.

2. Immediate Challenge – The Hanged Man

This card urged her to shift her perspective. Instead of looking at this situation as something happening to her, she needed to consider why it was happening for her. What was this silence teaching her? The Hanged Man often appears when we must let go of control and surrender to the wisdom of the universe.

3. Root Cause – Eight of Cups

A painful yet necessary departure. This card suggested that Virendra had walked away for reasons unknown to Snehal, but not without personal struggle. There was an emotional weight he had been carrying, something that made him feel the need to retreat.

4. Past Influences – Knight of Wands

This was intriguing. The Knight of Wands represents impulsive, fiery energy—the kind that leaps into experiences without thinking too much about the consequences. It mirrored Snehal’s youthful patterns of fleeting relationships, which often ended without proper closure. Was this ghosting experience a mirror of her past actions, now playing out in a different way?

5. Conscious Awareness – Two of Swords

Indecision. A mental stalemate. Snehal was torn between reaching out one more time or cutting ties completely. This card showed her reluctance to see the truth—perhaps deep down, she already sensed the answer but wasn’t ready to face it.

6. Near Future – Five of Pentacles

A period of emotional ‘winter.’ The Five of Pentacles suggested that Virendra’s absence would not be resolved anytime soon, leaving her feeling left out in the cold. However, this was a time for self-reflection rather than seeking external validation.

7. How She Sees Herself – Queen of Cups

A deeply intuitive, emotional, and nurturing soul. This card reassured Snehal that her feelings were valid, but it also served as a reminder—was she always the giver in this friendship? Did she ignore her own needs in favour of being the ‘emotional caretaker’?

8. External Influences – The Hermit

Virendra had withdrawn, not just from her, but from many aspects of his life. The Hermit suggested that he was undergoing an internal transformation, seeking solitude rather than connection. His silence was not necessarily a punishment directed at Snehal, but rather a reflection of his own personal journey.

9. Hopes and Fears – The Tower

Snehal feared that the foundation of their friendship had crumbled. The Tower is a card of sudden, unexpected shifts—something had clearly changed. But what if, instead of fearing this change, she embraced it?

10. Outcome – The Justice Card

A powerful conclusion. Justice is about karmic balance, truth, and accountability. This card suggested that, in time, clarity would come. Whether Virendra eventually reached out or not, this experience was teaching Snehal a crucial lesson about detachment, self-worth, and understanding that not all endings come with explanations.

Understanding Ghosting: The Karmic Perspective

Ghosting is more than just avoidance—it’s an unspoken message wrapped in silence. Often, it reflects the unresolved emotional burdens of both parties. In Snehal’s case, Virendra’s withdrawal echoed a deeper pattern in her life: relationships without closure.

The Spiritual Lesson: Acceptance and Release

The Justice card reinforced a key truth—sometimes, we don’t get the answers we seek, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t learning. Snehal’s lesson wasn’t about chasing explanations; it was about recognising when to hold on and when to let go.

Breaking the Cycle

Her reading revealed a history of casual endings, but this time, the universe had forced her to confront the discomfort of unfinished stories. Unlike the past, where she had been the one moving on quickly, this time she was on the receiving end. The experience was painful, but it was also transformative.

What Snehal Took Away from the Reading

After the reading, Snehal sat in contemplative silence. The cards hadn’t given her the ‘why’ she was hoping for, but they had given her something even more valuable—clarity. She realised that Virendra’s silence was not a reflection of her worth.

In the weeks that followed, she wrote a final message to him—not asking for an answer, not demanding closure, but simply expressing gratitude for their decades of friendship. And then, she let go.

Did Virendra ever return? That’s a story for another time. But Snehal? She walked away with her heart lighter, her spirit stronger, and a new awareness of her own patterns.

Because sometimes, the real closure doesn’t come from the other person—it comes from within.

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